Wednesday, September 17, 2014

What Do Women Want?

It's sad to still ask such question in such time ..but that's the reality.

The sad reality is that we -women in Arab countries- live the same life with just a bit of a different range of freedom. But we are all still bound to society, the concept of shame and honor, the men of the family and the sad idea that we are all just "women" in the eyes of everyone around us which basically means we can't be anything or go any further than what's been drawn to us.

The whole concept of what a woman wants need to be change in this area,and probably a wider area, because you can't limit a woman to want, be, have, desire and dream of only being a wife and then everything else -from a few selection men has drawn for her-.

A woman may not dream big, but she should be allowed to have such small dreams.
A women may wish to be just a wife, but she shouldn't bound the rest of us to dream only like her.

The saddest part is that no one can understand or even try to understand that a woman has the right to be, to live, to enjoy her life, to dream big or small without necessarily being a wife and a mother, or anything else than just a human being.
A woman can and is being able to be great without the restrictions of being a Mrs. and a mom.

A woman's worth can not and shall not be judged by her ability to be the wife of someone and the mother of another. 

I have simple dreams, but will I ever achieve them without being a wife and a mom !!!

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Loans


Dear friend,
I started a Kiva campaign to help people around the world grow businesses and support their families. Will you help me reach my goal of $1050.00? A Kiva campaign is unique because I'm raising funds for loans, not donations. If you generously contribute, when the loan is repaid that money is yours to keep or relend again. How cool!

I hope you'll join me – your $25 loan can help change a life: http://www.kiva.org/l/wafa7578/My-Birthday-Campaign-

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Attention Seeking

I am torn between seeking attention and wanting to be alone..completely alone.

A beautiful article so we can understand one human need in the simplest way

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This column will change your life: we mustn't ignore attention-seekers

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According to a new Canadian study, it's more emotionally damaging to be ignored in the workplace than bullied. This finding raised some eyebrows: after all, bullying's an overtly hostile act, whereas we're taught from childhood that turning a blind eye to those we can't stand is the civilised thing to do. For a simple explanation of this seemingly odd result, I refer you to the path-breaking psychologist Oscar Wilde: "There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about." Workplace bullying can be awful, but it does have one rather cheerless payoff: at least you can be certain that people think you're worth bullying. The ignored person (ignoree?) lacks even that chilly solace. I've often wondered why would-be standup comedians subject themselves to hecklers at open-mic nights, but perhaps that's the reason. Nobody would choose an audience of drunken hecklers; on the other hand: an audience!
One person that study wouldn't have surprised is Idries Shah, the Indian-born philosopher who died in 1996. Beneath almost everything humans do, he argued, lay an unacknowledged motive: the "attention-factor". The theory is, we need attention almost as desperately as food and warmth, but don't realise it, so we fail to understand that many everyday encounters "are in fact disguised attention-situations". In a business negotiation, you might think your only motive is to win; in an argument with a spouse, you might believe your primary goal is to get the other person to change. Yet in both cases you might really be motivated by trying to satisfy your unmet need for attention.
Crucially, "attention may be 'hostile' or 'friendly' and still fulfil the appetite for attention". A bad-tempered fight between friends is still a form of engagement: in the very act of fighting, each is acknowledging that the other matters. Since Shah's death, research has backed him up: neuroscience suggests that social isolation affects the brain similarly to physical pain, while ostracism has been identified as a key factor in some of the bloodiest US school shootings. Are mass murders sometimes a horrifyingly destructive attempt to remind the world the murderer exists?
Our failure to understand our need for attention routinely lands us in trouble, Shah believed, because it leaves us at the mercy of anyone, however unpleasant, who's willing to bestow some. When people feel ignored, a political leader who makes them feel acknowledged will acquire their support, even if he's an egomaniacal tyrant with no plans to improve their lives. A controlling or otherwise abusive partner will doubtless pay you plenty of attention, even as he or she destroys you. Worse, you'll be predisposed to believe it when you're told it's for your own good: when people lack the attention they require, Shah wrote, "they are vulnerable to the message which too often accompanies the exercise of attention towards them".
We think of "attention-seeking" as a character flaw. Start to see it instead as a universal need – met in healthy or unhealthy ways – and all sorts of things fall into place: celebrity meltdowns and internet trolling, but also many of your partner's or your colleagues' otherwise inexplicable quirks. (Or your own.) Life is an open-mic night, and we're all just trying to get noticed.

Monday, July 7, 2014

Good Read ( July 7, 2014 )

If We Don't Tie Her, She Runs Away

In Pictures: India's missing children

Meet the Man Who Rescues Child Soldiers

Hamid, the One Who Captured His Heart

African migrants in Qatar, victims of recruitment fraud and racial prejudice 

Majority of Nepal migrant deaths 'should be treated as murder'

No ‘Right to be Forgotten’ For Kuwait’s Maids

To Be Raped or to Become a Prostitute

Pakistan's Transgender Community Is Hiding Out in a Hostile City

Refugee facing deportation from Sweden saved by fellow passengers refusing to let plane leave

Egypt’s secret prison: ‘disappeared’ face torture in Azouli military jail

Amid the Atrocities: William Daniels Returns to Central African Republic

India's farmer suicides: are deaths linked to GM cotton? – in pictures

10 Facts About The Arab Enslavement Of Black People Not Taught In Schools

10 things we didn’t know before Snowden

25th anniversary of the Tiananmen Square massacre

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72 Incredible Elephant Facts That Will Make You Want To Save Them

30 Shocking Animal Ad Campaigns That Will Make You Rethink Your Lifestyle

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10 WAYS WE BODY SHAME WITHOUT REALIZING IT:

20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You

40 Little Ways to Find Happiness in What You Already Have

20 Tiny Thoughts Crushing Your Biggest Dreams

20 Questions that Will Free Your Mind from Negativity

10 Forgotten Truths to Help You Get Through Hard Times

16 Things Emotionally Strong People Don’t Do

20 Hard Things You Need to Do to Be Happy

15 Toxic Thoughts You Need to Drop For a Better Life

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يوميات التعذيب يونيو 2013 - مايو 2014.pdf

 حساب كويتي على الانستغرام يلاحق العمالة الهاربة

حميد الذي التقط قلبه

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an old -2010-but important video
Akhdam women tell their stories of violence, injustice & poverty in Yemen

Saturday, July 5, 2014

In Another Four Years

On Tuesday, July 13, 2010, I wrote this post (In Four Years)  when the previous World Cup was over.

and these were my goals to achieve in four years, and I achieved none.

 1-  To finish paying my debts to the bank.

2- To have -or close to- have a house. 

3- To have a better sense of accomplishment in my job. Or maybe find a better job or do something that I love. 

4-To control my diabetes. 

5- To love myself more. 

6- To learn a language or two -mostly French and Spanish- by then. 

7-To attend the world cup in Brazil. i have always wanted to go to Brazil and to attend the world cup, so two birds in one stone !!!

8- Be in a better place -financially , physically, emotionally and place wise-. 
 
 
The world cup isn't over yet, and I am not watching for human rights issues. The funny thing is that I will be finishing #1&2 closer to the next world cup, unless a miracle happens. And number 7 isn't a dream at all whether it's in Brazil or any other country. 
 
 

Sunday, June 22, 2014

World Refugges

Refugees are YOU minus the house, food, security and comfort.

There are 16.7 million refugees, 1.2 million asylum seekers and 33.3 million “internally displaced persons” – people who had to flee their homes, but remain within a country-  according to figures released by UNHCR (Source)

 "Half the world’s refugees are children, many travelling alone or in groups in a desperate quest for sanctuary, and often falling into the clutches of human traffickers" (Source)

An Afghan internally displaced boy hides behind his mother as he looks on in a poor neighbourhood in Kabul on Feb. 23, 2014. (Massoud Hossaini/AP)
 A woman leans against a tree in the world’s biggest refugee complex on August 23, 2009 in Dadaab, Kenya. (Spencer Platt/Getty Images)


 
Photographed by Nariman El-Mofty/AP

 An Iraqi child who fled the violence in their home towns eats at a refugee camp near the city of Irbil, northern Iraq, on June 16, 2014. (EPA)






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Friday, February 28, 2014

Done With Teaching


After seventeen years and a half, since 1997, I am done with teaching. So that's one weight off my shoulder :)

Today I became a vice principal.

I know it's not an easy job but teaching and I aren't friends. It's not students whom I can't deal with, they are actually very sad to see me leaving, it's just being  a teacher is getting worse every year. And I am not sad to be done with it at all.

The best part is that I am going to be a vice principal at the same school I am teaching in now. I won't be the only one, usually we have more than one vice principal, so it will be interesting seeing who am I going to work with.
I already know the principal , who is glad that I will be working there and I feel the same, and that's another weight off my shoulder :)