Sunday, February 22, 2015
Posted by Wafa at 8:23 PM
Friday, February 20, 2015
This post is inspired by this article (Arabic).
Like every child - I guess- I wanted to be a doctor. Then , I don't remember what exactly do I want to be. After that, dreams vanish so reality would take place. Two realities actually: First, that my family is a poor one and they need someone to help them, though being before the last shouldn't be a concern of mine.Second: that women can either be doctors -which wasn't OK for most families back then- or teachers, so I became a teacher.
I was one of those first unlucky, our salaries were way below what we should have, and I was sent to a far away village, which mean we have to leave by dawn and come back at 4 every day, out of those 12 hours we used to spend 6 on the road..an evil road.
I didn't like the job at the beginning and refused to go but was forced and hit severely to go, the only way out of that situation was through my second attempt to commit suicide and sadly that didn't work out and left me sick for a while.
The money was good - little but good- especially for someone who never have such money, and it helped us get out of situations that we couldn't otherwise.
Then I was one of the luckiest who moved back to the city in a year. Working at a school in the city is completely different , I loved it and worked hard to be something. Short story shorter things didn't work out the way I wanted or dreamed of.
I was the lone breadwinner of the family and that's tough and hard. ( Please if you are reading this and you have one breadwinner of your family don't make it harder on them by blaming or complaining.. you have no idea how shitty they feel ).
In October 2016 I will be working for 20 years. I wonder if I am qualified as being in work for 35 years cuz I never took a time off -beside the summer vacation and the Gulf War in 1990- since I first attended primary school :)
I don't know if I can or will be able to retire anytime soon, not because I will be bored to death for lack of doing things in here, but because I am still the breadwinner and I still didn't buy a house for us to settle in and because my salary isn't what it shall to be -like many- and retirement now would mean I would be back close to poverty again.
The frustrating part is that for 19 years I got no saving, I am still in debt and I didn't achieve what I was looking for, it's not my dream job, that job wasn't mine.
(let's leave it to that or else my vent would be evil)
If you asked me a few years ago "what do you want to be?" I would say a radio host or a reporter.
Now, I want to be a volunteer to save the poor and animals.Sadly, in here things aren't that easy to be done.
So until further on.. I am stuck in here and wish to be stuck here until I got what I want or find a better job emotionally and physically and with no one around :)
P.S: I am writing here to vent mostly not because I am looking for sympathy. Thank you :)
Posted by Wafa at 8:20 PM
Saturday, February 7, 2015
That's my statue about the 9 things you should be able to say about your life ..
1-I have kept an open mind to new ideas and experiences.
( let's say up to 90% )
2-I am following my heart and intuition.
(mostly the first not the last )
3-I am being honest with myself.
( 90% of the time)
4-I am making a difference.
( I don't think so anymore)
5-I don’t need anyone else to complete me.
( not to complete me but to be there for me... anyone available for love? ;) )
6-I have been brave enough to be vulnerable.
( I am always vulnerable... and that's a big problem )
7-I have forgiven those who once hurt me.
( YES.. but new ones always manage to take their places)
8-I persevered through tough times.
(95% of those rough times and I am scared to not be able to when things get tougher)
9-I have no regrets.
(My whole life is nothing but a big blackboard flashing "REGRET" )
Posted by Wafa at 8:01 PM
Friday, December 5, 2014
From the Gitmo Cookbook: Biryani at Tayyab's East London Curry House
Posted by Wafa at 1:00 AM
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
It's the time of the year when I am the only one celebrating me and trying to do something positive for me by buying things me don't need :)
I tried something different this time ..trying to do something positive for others with the help of other others
and it didn't work :(
So I will try to do it by myself :)
I am 41 and the day started beautifully with a beautiful message from a dear friend :)
Posted by Wafa at 12:04 AM